PERCEPTION

PERCEPTION . . . Something To Think About. . .

Washington, DC Metro Station on a cold January morning in 2007. The man with a violin played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time approx. 2 thousand people went through the station, most of them on their way to work. After 3 minutes a middle aged man noticed there was a musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried to meet his schedule. 4 minutes later: The violinist received his first dollar: a woman threw the money in the hat and, without stopping, continued to walk. 6 minutes: A young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch and started to walk again. 10 minutes: A 3-year old boy stopped but his mother tugged him along hurriedly. The kid stopped to look at the violinist again, but the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. Every parent, without exception, forced their children to move on quickly. 45 minutes: The musician played continuously. Only 6 people stopped and listened for a short while. About 20 gave money but continued to walk at their normal pace. The man collected a total of $32. 1 hour: He finished playing and silence took over. No one noticed. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition. No one knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the greatest musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written, with a violin worth $3.5 million dollars. Two days before Joshua Bell sold out a theater in Boston where the seats averaged $100. This is a true story. Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and people's priorities. The questions raised: *In a common place environment at an inappropriate hour, do we perceive beauty? *Do we stop to appreciate it? *Do we recognize talent in an unexpected context? One possible conclusion reached from this experiment could be this: If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world, playing some of the finest music ever written, with one of the most beautiful instruments ever made. How many other things are we missing?

GIRLS ON THE RUN!

Susan with her daughter, Gabby before the race and with the team after finishing!

"I did it!" That's what 10-year-old Juli shouted as she crossed the finish line of her first 5K (3.1 miles.) I don't know who was prouder of her accomplishments - Juli, her parents, or me -her coach.

Ten weeks ago, I began training nine 5th grade girls twice a week as part of a national program called Girls on the Run. The program teaches girls about healthy body image, choices, and self-esteem through running. We were joined by about 200 other girls from local communities who also took part in the program.

When we first began, my girls could barely get through a mile without huffing and puffing. To watch them cross the finish line in Cleveland's Fall Classic was a total thrill for me. Girls who barely said a word for the first five weeks of training were giving high fives and cheering each other on. Their faces were shining and their eyes brimming with confidence. It just goes to show you what good it does to give ourselves goals we're not quite sure we can achieve, until we do.

PLEASE ACCEPT THIS GIFT

The Halloween candy hasn't had a chance to go stale and the Christmas decorations are up! Wow, this year has been long is some ways and fast in others. The economy has affected many of you, I know. Businesses every where took a hit, yet we're still plugging along.

I want to give a sincere thank you to all of you who have continued to do business with me in one way or another through this time. Some of you have personally called me to let me know that when business picks up again, you will use my services. Now that's loyalty! Thank you.

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Thanks to all, and I hope this helps makes the end of the year a little bit easier for you!

POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT

This video is a great example of changing behavior by reinforcing positive habits. What effect do you think this would have on health care reform?

Check it out here!

DOING THE LUCY WIGGLE

Okay, here's where I eat my words! (Or, I learn not to post declarations that will burn me later). Here's the very short story of how within two months, I went from, "We are not getting a dog," to owning a dog.

We met Lucy. End of story.

Lucy came into our lives as a foster dog. She had been abused by her former owner, needed medicine for her liver disease, and a lot of attention. We could barely find her eyes because her fur was so long and matted. However, we quickly learned which end was what when she performed the "Lucy Wiggle." That's the unbelievably overjoyed, ecstatically happy dance she performs every time you enter the room - even if you were just there two minutes ago. Now, our whole family does the Lucy Wiggle. It's a great stress reliever, really.

After nursing Lucy back to health, we turned her back into the shelter so she could be adopted, just like we had agreed. Then we went on our summer vacation and my daughter cried every day. We all missed her. Halfway through vacation, the Animal Protective League of Cleveland called to tell us that past adoption efforts had failed and Lucy was ours if we wanted her.

Lucy has embedded herself into our hearts, and taught me a lesson about speaking in extremes. Here she is - before and after grooming:

Lucy is a Yorkie-Poo combo. Here she is just before getting groomed.















Wow! Let's all do the Lucy Wiggle!

My daughter and Lucy both found a spot of sunshine streaming through our front door to share an afternoon nap.

When I spotted this scene, I knew without a doubt that we had made the right choice.

SANDY & ME

You may be familiar with the book, Marley & Me about a lovable yet out-of-control lab and the family that adopted him. Their story spanned years. My story takes place in two weeks because frankly, it's all I can take.


Meet Sandy, a lovable yet completely out-of-control lab mutt. Our family is fostering her through the Cleveland Animal Protective League where we are weekly volunteers. Sandy has mange (skin disease) and is staying with us temporarily until she heals. Our daughter, like most kids, was convinced she wanted a dog. This experience has taught her that what she really wanted was a trained dog, and preferably one that does need to go out at 6:00 a.m.

Sandy has an affinity for chasing birds, frogs, rabbits, deer, dogs, people and cars. She chewed through her harness, urinated on my carpet, put a 6-inch tear in the kitchen linoleum and taught us a lot about dealing with difficult behaviors.

Just like a lot of difficult people, Sandy appeared well-behaved at first. Then slowly, her true personality appeared. She bit me several times. I'm sure she'd justify it as "just playing" but the scars and bruises on my forearms tell a different story. (If she was a difficult person, she might accuse me of being too sensitive.)

Sandy on a rabbit hunt

For all her challenging qualities, Sandy has a lot of redeeming ones too. Besides being cute, she made my daughter realize she didn't want to be a dog owner after all. And, after walking Sandy three times a day, I'm sporting some pretty impressive biceps!

My daughter learning the realities of owning a dog!

COLLEGE GRADUATION RATES EARNS "F"

They may be called Four-Year Universities, but the reality is we should call them Six Years or Longer. A new study conducted by The American Enterprise Institute compared federally reported graduation rates at 1,385 schools. They found that only 53.7 percent of first-time, full-time students enrolled in the fall of 2001 graduated from the same institution in 2007.
The study does not account for students who transfer, nor does it suggest why students drop out or offer solutions.

Having worked in a college setting for two years, I can tell you that one reason students drop out or transfer is because of social difficulties. So much emphasis is placed on getting academically prepared, and that's definitely important. But, many students sink or swim based on making friends and getting along with roommates. Transferring schools is costly, both financially and in terms of lost time.

If you're the parent or grandparent of a soon-to-be college freshman, please encourage him or her to think about how conflicts with roommates will be solved. Most say they'll "deal with it if it happens." They have no plan and no conflict resolution skills. If that's the case, clean out your basement. Your kid may be coming home!

I just updated my survival guide for managing such situations called My Roommate Is Driving Me Crazy! It offers over 250 conversation starters and solutions for solving roommate difficulties. These are skills everyone needs, no matter how long it takes to graduate! You can purchase it by clicking on the link above. It comes in two versions, hard copy or e-book. Include a copy as a gift when you're packing sheets and toilet paper - it'll come in just as handy!